Comments on: A Letter To the Ladies http://reyshizz.com/home/a-letter-to-the-ladies/ ray-shizz (pron,adj): one who rap passionately, makes money, and helps others along the way Sun, 12 Jun 2011 17:15:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: reyshizz http://reyshizz.com/home/a-letter-to-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-156 reyshizz Wed, 25 Nov 2009 17:23:40 +0000 http://reyshizz.com/home/?p=657#comment-156 hey moxie, thanks for stopping by and leaving a passionate comment. I will try to clarify my post a bit... 1) "if the end result is like you explained then its all the same to me." One of the reasons for me writing this post is to try and figure out a way to alleviate the outcome that i've described above, not to perpetuate it. I would hope that if BOTH parties are open and honest that the outcome would be much different. 2) "You yourself admit to never wanting a relationship, marriage etc., no commitment…you admit to liking sex, and wanting it often, so because you are honest should that absolve you of your sins…no." To clarify... I personally do not want to be involved in any type of committed relationship, i dont speak for all men in saying that. But i think it's safe to assume that all men like sex and want to do it often. As far as being absolve for being open and honest about that is tricky because the other party has to be open and honest about their reaction, including conditions when it's okay and when its not. for example, i could say, "moxie, i just want to do your brains out and nothing more" an open and honest response would be "rey that's cool for now but what about in a year? I dont want to be your play thing forever. I still kinda want to now tho, so why dont we commence and check back in about this situation in 3 months?" and so on... if we can agree to some terms and timing before anything happens i think that more than covers my ass... 3) "At the end of the day men are self-serving. Be it an upfront honest self-server or otherwise." All people are self-serving in one way or another. We all have to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions. If one doesnt agree with the terms, then any relations that would be uncomfortable should be avoided. does this help you see what i'm saying? hey moxie, thanks for stopping by and leaving a passionate comment. I will try to clarify my post a bit…

1) “if the end result is like you explained then its all the same to me.” One of the reasons for me writing this post is to try and figure out a way to alleviate the outcome that i’ve described above, not to perpetuate it. I would hope that if BOTH parties are open and honest that the outcome would be much different.

2) “You yourself admit to never wanting a relationship, marriage etc., no commitment…you admit to liking sex, and wanting it often, so because you are honest should that absolve you of your sins…no.” To clarify… I personally do not want to be involved in any type of committed relationship, i dont speak for all men in saying that. But i think it’s safe to assume that all men like sex and want to do it often. As far as being absolve for being open and honest about that is tricky because the other party has to be open and honest about their reaction, including conditions when it’s okay and when its not. for example, i could say, “moxie, i just want to do your brains out and nothing more” an open and honest response would be “rey that’s cool for now but what about in a year? I dont want to be your play thing forever. I still kinda want to now tho, so why dont we commence and check back in about this situation in 3 months?” and so on… if we can agree to some terms and timing before anything happens i think that more than covers my ass…

3) “At the end of the day men are self-serving. Be it an upfront honest self-server or otherwise.” All people are self-serving in one way or another. We all have to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions. If one doesnt agree with the terms, then any relations that would be uncomfortable should be avoided.

does this help you see what i’m saying?

]]> By: moxie_b http://reyshizz.com/home/a-letter-to-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-155 moxie_b Wed, 25 Nov 2009 15:50:10 +0000 http://reyshizz.com/home/?p=657#comment-155 I for one do not accept this apology. I cannot, because you cannot apologize for all men. Your intentions are different. And regardless of the approach we take to relationships/relations with one another...be it truthful, deceptive, or naive if the end result is like you explained then its all the same to me. You yourself admit to never wanting a relationship, marriage etc., no commitment...you admit to liking sex, and wanting it often, so because you are honest should that absolve you of your sins...no. While honesty is respected, the pat on the back you men give yourselves is overbearing. At the end of the day men are self-serving. Be it an upfront honest self-server or otherwise. I for one do not accept this apology. I cannot, because you cannot apologize for all men. Your intentions are different. And regardless of the approach we take to relationships/relations with one another…be it truthful, deceptive, or naive if the end result is like you explained then its all the same to me.

You yourself admit to never wanting a relationship, marriage etc., no commitment…you admit to liking sex, and wanting it often, so because you are honest should that absolve you of your sins…no. While honesty is respected, the pat on the back you men give yourselves is overbearing. At the end of the day men are self-serving. Be it an upfront honest self-server or otherwise.

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