Blah blah blah. I do that often. I mean, I have opinions and arguments that I like to share with others when a topic of interest arises. Whenever I do share my opinion with another human being it is thoroughly argued and dissected, so I have to be prepared with arguments that are (pretty) well rehearsed. One of those opinions that is scripted in my head is my view on relationships. Over the past year I’ve maintained a radically different perspective on relationships that always gets me in trouble when I talk about it – both online and off. The bases of my argument is that the traditional relationship model is grossly outdated and needs to be changed to accommodate the way we live today. Once again I will go Read More
Yes, today is Valentines Day and I shall share this day with my love… music. I’m actually preparing to go on a hiatus pretty soon to focus solely on creating good music. It will just be me and her. The details of my hiatus are top secret and me even mentioning it may be a breach of the confidential agreement I made with myself, but I’m so excited I can’t help it. This will be my tribute to music. Read More
It’s true, I have a crush. Well, not really. I had a crush. This happens to me more often than I would like, after all I am human. When ever this occurs I take advantage of the situation and use the inspiration to write music. Read More
I don’t mean to get personal but I want to get this shit off my chest. I recently got out of a relationship and since then I have begun to question the whole concept of a relationship. What does it mean?
This is how I see it now…
For what ever reason Person A wants to be in a relationship (for what ever reason) with another person. Then person B comes along with the same desire. They meet each other one thing lead to another (whatever those things are) and the next thing you know they’re in a relationship together. All good right? Well let’s see…
My guess is that everyone has their own ideas of what a relationship is and isn’t. I’d say about 50% of those ideas overlap between people, which leaves 50% of what a relationship is open to interpretation.
My trade is in engineering so I like diagrams. Below is an illustration of the problem. When Person A and B get together some parts of their relationship ideas overlap and others don’t. I call this the “Conflict Zone”. Any time an issue comes up where the ideas don’t intersect there’s going to be a problem. How that problem manifests itself is another story, just know that it’s going to happen.
Now believing this to be true, how can one avoid conflict zones in a relationship? I have two solutions: a) find someone who shares 100% of your ideas about a relationship (not likely) or b) kill the idea of a relationship. See figure below.
When you kill the idea what you are left with are two people sharing each others company. No “have tos”, “shoulds”, or “shouldn’ts”… No problems no make ups or break ups… Just living…
Moving forward this will be my practice… until (of course) I find a rational reason why the above is flawed
I’ve been rhyming since I was 11
and will continue to rhyme until I die. My music is music for the mind, music for the heart, and music for the soul. It’s music for me. It’s therapy, it’s self realization, it’s being able to step outside ... 