If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence, you have won before you have started.
~Marcus Tullius Cicero
“If you don’t believe in yourself, why would anyone else believe in you?” These were the words of my fifth grade teacher, Mrs. Easton. I use those words as a guide to keep me on track with what ever situation I approach. In this instance I use it to be more attractive to women. Most women will agree that a man with confidence is much more appealing than a man without. Here in lies the problem, how do you gain that confidence.
Tell yourself and believe you are hot stuff
You may be down on yourself for one reason or another. When you look in the mirror all you see are the flaws. At work, all you can focus on are your mistakes. You never get the grades you want in class. Every time you think negatively about yourself, you lose a bit of the confidence that you want to build. So, from now on remind yourself that you are hot stuff. Every time I look into the mirror there are one of two phrase that I think to myself. 1) “Damn! I look good.” or 2) “I’m the sh*t.” Feel free to use either one or make up your own to build some confidence.
It is also important to remind yourself of all the things you have going for you, both in your life and aspects of your character that are attractive. Like, are you a good listener? Are you creative? Do you have a sense of humor? Grab a pen and paper and right down all of your great attributes. Take a look at them least once a day and remind yourself daily that you got it going on!
Once you build your confidence you will see that people will start treating you a lot differently. You will have an aura about you that is not to be messed with. Women could sense this and will be drawn to you.
caveat
One caveat that I must add is that if you are overly confident, you look like an asshole. So you might want to avoid that.
Oh, before I forget, please comment. I'd like to know your thoughts.
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2 responses so far ↓
1 Ammun-Rubirosa // Mar 10, 2008 at 10:41 pm
How do you keep from getting/being over-confident, and therefore “looking like an ass?” And exactly what is overconfidence? And how can one tell (about themself or another?)
2 rey // Mar 12, 2008 at 4:33 am
Overconfidence is when your arrogance or cockiness out weights your humility. You can’t take yourself so seriously to the point where people cant’s stand to be in the room with you because your big headed. You have to remember to be humble as well.
It’s hard for one to look inward and identify unattractive traits. The best thing to do is ask a close friend if your confidence level is bordering assholeness….. .
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